Just beforehand, this article does not have a basis whatsoever on Valentine’s
So let’s get to it!
What is romantic love?
Brain science tells us it’s a drive like thirst. It’s a craving for a specific person. It’s normal, natural to “lose control” in the early stage of romance. Love, like thirst, will make you do strange things and whether it’s called romantic love, obsessive love, passionate love, or infatuation, men and women of every era and every culture have been affected by this irresistible “power”.
Many people spend their entire lives looking for such love, wanting to feel such love, wondering, when they are first attracted to a guy or girl, if that’s what they’re now feeling. Above all, most people love being in love, love the feeling of loving, love even the mad passion of being in love. They are bewitched by the passion that would make them want to die rather than not be in love.
As a culture, we tend to be pretty cynical about the prospect of romantic love (as opposed to the ‘other’ loves — lust and long-term attachment) enduring over time and through obstacles, and for good reason. Roughly 50 percent of marriages end in divorce, And among those that stay together, marital dissatisfaction is common.
So I did a little research for myself and I wouldn’t believe what I discovered. Statistics actually show that most couples in arranged marriages have a 6-8 percent divorce rate, okay maybe let’s give them a little leeway and assume the reason why they don’t divorce if in abusive marriages is because some are submissive because of religion, family, culture or something of the sorts.
Now back to the statistics both parties(couple) report high levels of satisfaction, commitment, passionate and companion-ate love. Then I wonder, then why are most “romantic-based” marriages falling apart at such an enormous rate?
So I ask myself questions like
Is it because it has been materialized?
Is it because it’s like a competition now?
Is it because divorce is now a trending topic?
So then maybe I should conclude with affirming that romantic love is a fallacy, but since am still a believer and I would like to raise children in a setting where this type of love is valuable and healthy in a marriage, free from the craving and obsession of the early stages of falling in love and the slip-ups that follow subsequently,
I will allow margin of confidence.
“One half of me is yours,” speaks Shakespeare’s Portia ( in his Merchant of Venice), “and the other half—my own half, I’d call it—belongs to you too. If it’s mine, then it’s yours, and so I’m all yours.” In its diverse nuanced forms, from Shakespeare to the average Joe, the language of love-making symbolizes, and invites, the combination of two into one.