Yet another week, another day to be thankful and grateful for.
I would like to address the social ill that has engrossed our society today, commonly known as sexual immorality, also fornication but has now taken the form ‘cohabitation’ in the modern time and has even gone as far as being termed as ‘marriage’ by some communities.
I believe there is a serious sex problem in the modern world. Well, there has always been a sex problem even in the ancient days but the plague just keeps spreading further and further and rooting itself deeper and deeper consuming even new generations.
Do you know, that what you do in this life can affect the next generation?
That is why I believe we need to get it right because the minute we started accepting sexual immorality as a normal way of life, we set the next generation on fire.
Sex and sexuality is spiritual. There is no sexual activity where our spirit is not involved because we were first created spirit beings, in the image of God. I will break down what I mean by this, using biblical and literal texts.
I remember when I was about 18 years old, sex was becoming more and more an attractive conversation. I was curious about it and I was surrounded by friends who were curious about it as well. Many conversations among my peers and I was finally convinced it was alright to have sex before marriage because even the arguments themselves presented solid, valid and factual.
Sex is an uncomfortable topic for many, it was for me as well, at some point. I remember when I first had to address the topic for the first time on my blog and to be honest, I was not excited about it, because I felt I had no right to tell people how to behave with their sexuality. However, this is the reason why we have a sex crazed society, because we have felt it is not our place to tell people what to do with their sexual lives or to instruct our children in sexual matters and this silence has created a monster in the society.
This article therefore is not about me telling people what to do concerning their sex lives, but about what the word of God says concerning marriage, sex and sexual immorality and and its effects to the human state.
A country’s constitution establishes the governing laws of the land including those of marriage. I would advise all to refer to the Marriage Act for further guidance in relation to marriage (you can find the Kenyan Marriage Act online and it is free) Marriage is a sanctified union between a man and a woman and it is a legally binding covenant.
In 2003, the Massachusetts Supreme Judicial Court ruled in Goodridge v. Department of Public Health that it was unconstitutional under the Constitution of Massachusetts for the state to abridge marriage on the basis of sex. From 2004 through to 2015, as the tide of public opinion continued to move towards support of same-sex marriage, various state court rulings, state legislation, direct popular votes (referendums and initiatives), and federal court rulings established same-sex marriage in thirty-six of the fifty states. —Wikipedia
It seems with time as well, we have regarded our own ideologies, views and opinions and passed them as law, discrediting God’s word completely as the source of wisdom and hidding under the guise of the right of freedom, conscience, belief, opinion and expression. ¹All who exalt their own opinions about divine revelation, all who change the plain meaning of scripture to suit their own conscience, or for the sake of conforming to the world, are taking upon themselves a fearful responsbility.
Growing up, bibles were a mandatory requirement in school. I do not know if that is the case now, and most schools recommended the Good News Bible. I remember reading my Bible in school and I saw this specific Bible address the issue of sexual immorality but never knew exactly what sexual immorality was, I always thought its description was too broad—I wanted specifics.
Fast forward many years later, I started reading other Bibles and comparing texts, I found there had been different translations overtime and I decided to study broadly not only the revised versions but also the middle-age translations.
Sex outside marriage is sin and the (KJV) Bible calls it fornication. ²Can any steward of the mysteries of God be found faithful if he changes any part of that sacred depositum? No. He can abate nothing, he can soften nothing; he is constrained to declare to all men, ‘I may not bring down the Scripture to your taste. You must come up to it, or perish forever.’
I know many people have different views and opinions in regards to this subject which I respect. In fact, others may go as far as to question, what makes Scripture the basis of everything seeing that the traditional man lived without the Bible and still thrived in his time, as such would result to several discussions. I would like however, to challenge the modern christian man or woman who profess their faith in Christ but are still on the fence with traditions.
There is a danger in hanging between opinions in life and I believe this is the reason why there is much confusion in the world today. People want to pick the good parts of every basket and leave those which do not suit them. But God has always been telling people from the beginning, choose a side! Make a choice, stop swinging back and forth and make up your minds. All throughout the Bible there is nowhere God has ever eluded that He was okay with people who are lukewarm. In fact, the Bible calls a doubter or a double minded man unstable and such should not expect to receive anything from God (James 1:8)
So why does the word of God insist so much about the coming together of a man and a woman and comparing it to the great mystery concerning Christ and the church? Because in the body of Christ there is no division or darkness, all things must be brought to light and must be made public before men. There is no disciple Jesus called in private, but He called them out publicly before men. Ephesians 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
There are those who still practice sexual immorality within the constitution of marriage referred to as adulterousness; which is as well sin. Now, I would like to point out a verse that not only reproves sexual immorality but goes to show its effects. Sexual immorality affects our whole life to the extent of daily operations; remember I told you sex is sacred, meaning it is very much spiritual—Don’t you know that anyone who is joined to someone who is sleeping around is one body with that person? The scripture says, The two will become one flesh 1 Corinthians 6:16 (CEB)
What does this mean? It means since sex is spiritual, if for example, you have relations with more than one man or woman, inside or outside marriage and these people have spirits of fear, doubt, uncertainty, confusions, hate, violence, debauchery, anger, jealousy and all sorts; such will also be part of you, you absorb them like a sponge. The scripture says, The two will become one flesh.
When Paul wrote to the Corinthians about these matters, he talked about his own celibacy, I say this as a concession, not as a command. I wish that all men were as I am. But each man has his own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. But if they do not have self-control, let them marry; for it is better to marry than to burn. 1 Corinthians 7:6-7 & 9
By this, he did not mean that being celibate was the best way of life, Paul simply desired that men might be free from distractions in order to devote themselves to serving God. It as well did not mean that men could not serve God while in marriage. But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband.1 Corinthians 7:2
He meant there was much honor in both paths, whether celibacy or marriage, both should be for the glory of God.
Sex and sexuality is a broad topic, subject to several misinterpretations and it is a discussion I found to be a touchy one with most people, then can you imagine addressing a society? People in general do not want to be told they are living in error. We are all grown-ups after all, we make our own decisions and choices.
The greatest tragedy with sin is that those who live in it, sever their relationship with God. But your iniquities have separated you from your God; your sins have hidden His face from you, so that He will not hear Isaiah 59:2
In as much as we would all have our opinions and views, deep down there is something that always agrees with this fact even when we try to fight it off. How?
God’s laws are already in our hearts. Whether we have heard of his teachings or not, His laws are woven into the fabric of our existence and hence the guilt and condemnation feeling of our sins.
All these too, does not mean He left us without remedy, without a way to be cleansed; but if we repented of our sins and looked to Him for direction, for guidance on how to use our hearts, our bodies, our minds to glorify His name He would wash us of every guilt, every sin, every regret, every bad decision, every error, every wrong turn we have ever taken through the blood of Jesus Christ.
The choice is an individual one, but it is always between life and death.
Have a blessed Easter Monday and a productive week ahead.
¹ Ellen White, The Great Controversy, p.156
² White, p. 152