Forcing Life, And Things To Happen

I would like you to picture this.

You have this dream that you would like to achieve. You want to accomplish it so bad that you cannot even imagine your life without having attained it.

You day-dream and think about it all day, you tell your friends about it, and you even plan your life around it. You would do anything and everything possible in your power to make it happen.

You try to find the necessary connections; linking yourself to those who can help you achieve it. And with all the strength you’ve got, you try, and try, and try some more to reach to it.

Story of my life.

Or rather, was, the story of my life.

This has been my struggle for the past three years, until this day when I came to the end of my strength and gave it all up. Though, I confess there are a few more instances I found myself picking up my strength again – to force those doors to open.

But I have eventually learnt to let go, and wait on God.

However, if we look carefully under a magnifying glass, we will find that this is exactly what society is grooming us to do in this day and age. This is what culture is telling us we must do concerning those things we desire to achieve in life. It is quite disturbing as well that this culture has also infiltrated Christianity, that is, doctrines of motivations, self-awareness and such like things… and are being substituted for, and peddled as God’s word.


O well… I do not want to get into this today because; I might get carried away with a holy indignation towards those people who are claiming to speak for God, saying and doing dishonest things in His name.

So, moving on swiftly…

There are crucial lessons that I have learnt this year, these being: God is a better planner than I am, I absolutely have no control over my life, and He knows me better than I know myself.

I believe that God is the one who places those desires and drives in our hearts. But where we go wrong, is when we desire to use them for our own personal gains.

And how do we do that? We strain, we try to open those doors by our own strength, then we end up draining ourselves and our bodies in the process – noting as well, we are observing other people’s lives or success stories, desiring to attain similar or even better kinds of results. We even go as far as using deceitful methods to attain what we want.

James 4

1 Where do wars and fights come from among you? Do they not come from your desires for pleasure that war in your members?
2 You lust and do not have. You murder and covet and cannot obtain. You fight and war. Yet you do not have because you do not ask.
3 You ask and do not receive, because you ask amiss, that you may spend it on your pleasures.

And we do so by forcing things, constantly having strife, all because we want to achieve certain goals. Forcing life is the worst kind of thing you can ever do in your life because the end result is always, and will always be – frustration.

Just take a look at people who force themselves on others —mostly those in relationships—they have no joy or peace, and they do not enjoy the freedom that comes with sincere love. There is no truth in such kinds of relationships; it is continuously disastrous, and sometimes ends up in suicides and murders.

Subsequently, this principle does not change in businesses, dreams, evangelism, or whichever activity or work we undertake. This is because God created us as free-willed beings. Not even He Himself, forces Himself on us. Why? So that by our own free-will, we can choose whether we want to follow Him or not.

What a breakthrough God has wrought in my life with this understanding!

And it has been extremely relaxing to come to this cognisance; because now, I can rest. Something I never ever, in my life thought was possible – the rest of, and, in God.

Meaning, I no longer have to strive to achieve things, I no longer have to compete to make things happen; I no longer have to be anxious about my life, or even that of those that I love. I no longer have to worry about anything because He is in control.

Matthew 6

26 Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not of more value than they?
27 Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?
28 “So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin;
29 and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.
30 Now if God so clothes the grass of the field, which today is, and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, will He not much more clothe you, O you of little faith?
31 “Therefore do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’
32 For after all these things the Gentiles seek. For your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things.
33 But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added to you.

Do you realize how amazing this is?

Once upon a time, I always heard the “Don’t worry, God is in control sayings” but never really understood or knew the magnitude of depth in these words, until just recently (when I began releasing myself to Him completely.) This is when I began to understand the reality, truth and wisdom in them.

Just take a look at all the characters in the Bible… the only thing that they had to do was just obey what God asked of them, and He took care of the rest. It has always been right in front of our eyes, but the world in its wisdom cannot apprehend that something as “complex” as success can simply come by just obeying God’s word.

Joshua 1

8 This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate in it day and night, that you may observe to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success.

The world would rather make itself to appear astute and scholarly as it drives people down to the ground with its, do this, do that, do the other, twenty ideas for success…, six facts to achieve this…, another thirty ideas to accomplish that…and so forth.

But realistically speaking, how can one person ever wrap their head around all this confusing advise? No wonder, we end up frustrated and our lives muddled.

1 Corinthians 1

27 But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak things of the world to put to shame the things which are mighty;
28 and the base things of the world and the things which are despised God has chosen, and the things which are not, to bring to nothing the things that are,
29 that no flesh should glory in His presence.

I can tell you for free… trying to break down doors and force those locks open with worldly wisdom, only gets you to one destination— frustration, and eventually hopelessness.

God is able to bring those things that are in our hearts to pass, if we commit them to Him and trust in Him.

Psalms 37

3 Trust in the LORD, and do good; so shall you dwell in the land, and verily you shall be fed.
4 Delight yourself also in the Lord, And He shall give you the desires of your heart.
5 Commit your way to the Lord, Trust also in Him, And He shall bring it to pass.
6 He shall bring forth your righteousness as the light, And your justice as the noonday.
7 Rest in the Lord, and wait patiently for Him; Do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, Because of the man who brings wicked schemes to pass.

And with this encouragement from God’s word, why then should we strive to force life and make things happen by our own strength?

Just take an honest inventory of your life. Assess and see whether you, like me, attempt or have attempted to force doors to open. And if so, here is fresh advise and hope for you, just like I myself received.

Excerpt from Paul a man of grace and grit by Charles R Swindoll

Rest in God because He is able. I mean, look at Jesus sleeping in the middle of a storm. We of little faith (I included). I hope we allow Him to be our teacher and our ultimate example.

Psalms 75:5-7 Do not lift up your horn on high; Do not speak with a stiff neck.’ ” For promotion comes neither from the east Nor from the west nor from the south. But God is the Judge: He puts down one, And exalts another.

Thank you for reading!

See you soon, God willing 😊

(I highly recommend that all bible chapters quoted on this article/post, be read fully for deeper understanding.)

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May 15, 2021 at 1:42 am

Good reminder Shiko!

May 15, 2021 at 1:47 am

I appreciate this encouragement!

May 15, 2021 at 4:54 pm

Thank you so much for reading Jeff 🙂 Glory to God for the words to write and the experiences as well. Everyday is a learning day with the Holy Spirit, and I am extremely glad. that He is patient to teach us.

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