These past weeks I have been thinking about death and family. I recently lost an aunt. And her death stirred up a deep sense of sorrow and attentiveness within me, in that; I saw the brevity of life, the shortness of time and the value of my loved ones.
We always hear the phrase: time is short but it is not until you start attending funerals of people you love, or you know, begin turning the ages of twenty five, thirty five, fifty, sixty…that you recognize that time is like a whirlwind.
Later on after the funeral, I thought of my family and my friends; and the scary thought of losing them became extremely surreal. My heart became downcast as I began to call to mind some of the things I had said and some of the ways I had acted towards my loved ones.
I wondered, “Honestly, is all the anger worth it? Is all the criticism worth it? Is all the pride worth it?”
And for you, who are reading this, thinking this is some sort of whimsical writing where I felt moved by those tragic events and then thought it would be a nice idea to blog about them; I would have you know that that is not the case.
My writing this post has been stirred by the scary thought that many people like me, live their lives carrying pride, unforgiveness, strife, self-righteous behaviors, and other vices that are just not worth it.
In the course of this internal discourse, I went further on and interrogated, “If so and so died today, what would become of your ‘justified anger’? Would it not turn to guilt, remorse and deep regret?”
The words: “It is not worth it! None of it is worth it!” just kept ringing in my head.
And I came to the realization that I have been living the Christian life wrongly.
Jesus forgave His persecutors while still hanging on the cross. He did not forgive them while vacationing somewhere in Madagascar after taking some time to process His emotions, that is, after His resurrection.
He forgave them on the spot; not because He did not have emotions, not because He was not deeply hurt by their actions and treatment of Him… but because— having a grasp of eternity— it was just not worth it! And more than that, despite what they had done, He still loved them. He chose to overlook all that unjust treatment and forgave them while still bleeding on the cross.
I do not know about you and where you are in life at the moment— in terms of your relationships— with people, but what I have learnt is that: it is just not worth it, whatever it is.
Forgive and let go, call that friend, that person you struggle to forgive, or that person you have been meaning to call but keep procrastinating and check up on them.
If it’s too much to do all at once, then just pray for them —genuinely.
Life is short and time is fleeting.
You may not have tomorrow to say what you could have said today. Whenever we leave people, we never say to them “goodbye forever in case you die.”
There is always that hope that you will see each other again.
But we take that hope for granted too much!
Make that phone call, meet or visit that person. Just let go of silly nonsensical grudges, ego and pride and give a love in your lifetime that will never experience any regrets.
Okay… Let’s just be honest, whenever most people hear anything about religion, their first reaction and instinct is probably to cringe or brush off the whole matter entirely.
Why? Most likely because it is a subject that is associated with extreme cases of fanaticism, it brings about a lot of conflicts and controversies, and even offends easily.
Religion is famously known for: manipulation, stagnation, repression, ignorance, bigotry and is too often a threat to liberty. And rightly so. I do agree. With that said, I recommend you to read two of my posts as well as encourage you to do a personal, extensive, and honest research on your own regarding this matter. Why?
As intellectuals (critical thinkers), I believe we owe it to ourselves to interrogate, examine, and ask hard questions regarding matters touching on faith rather than choosing to ignore them or even worse— follow blind faith. Click here for the first post.
Who speaks the truth with regards to a genuine, sincere and true relationship with God? Is it Buddha? Muhammad? Jesus? Zoroaster? Confucius? Joseph Smith? Guru Nanak? Krishna? Among others? Find out on this second post:
My heart overflows with a goodly matter; I speak the things which I have made touching the king: My tongue is the pen of a ready writer. Psalms 45:1
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