Who God is – As My Friend

A friend: one who is drawn to you in an affectionate way, one with whom one shares similar ideals, values, and interests; who stands by you through thick and thin; one who loves you all through, one who speaks truth to you no matter how hard it is to hear it. That is a friend.

Two verses on friends I pick from the book of proverbs that I love and one is:

Proverbs 17:17

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

Now, I am a friend to somebody and I also have friends. And truly, I have discovered that there is no bond as beautiful as that of friendship; this kind of bond many times even transcends the ties created through families.

I, too, admit that in being a friend to my friends, I have failed them in one way (if not many ways) somehow. Though I do realize as well that this is also how relationships grow and mature: through failing and subsequently learning from those failures. Yet, I have noticed something noteworthy: that even in those failures, one piece in all my friendships has remained constant: love.

A friend – loves at all times.

There is this one specific friendship – in all my life – I never ever imagined that I would ever experience or even desire to nurture: a friendship between God and I. I love to call our friendship: a love story between two sweethearts because God is one person I never thought we could ever be friends, and even if there existed that possibility, I would never have wanted Him as a friend anyway.

I was okay with Him being my creator, the ruler of the universe – not at all letting Him have any involvement in my life whatsoever – I was okay with Him just being a spectator in my life.

And if it was absolutely necessary that He be involved, then He would be helpful especially in times of trouble. (Which is typical human behavior because in truth, this is actually how most of us treat God — as a means to an end, an ATM of sorts. After we have made our withdrawals – having no use for Him any longer – we toss Him aside until the next time we are in desperate need of another favor or a quick-fix.)

But it turns out: God was the most important piece that was missing in my life; and that one friend I desperately needed for all the other relationships in my life to make sense.

Looking back now, it seems absolutely ridiculous to imagine the mind behind the universe…

…being a friend to anybody let alone my friend.

Because, if you have studied a bit of astronomy, He seems to have more important things to do (like moving Betelgeuse around) than to be involved in my day-to day activities; listening to all my woes and silly stories. I mean? Let’s be real!

Additionally, the scary stories I had heard about Him with regards to His fierce judgements and throwing people into hell was not appealing to me in any way. This only contributed to my fear of Him. (Though I later gained understanding on His judgements and hell.)

Now, the scripture: “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity” seems to fit how my friendship with God began.

As I was living life on my own terms – carelessly and carefree – I got myself into some serious health, mental and emotional trouble and it was here: I called upon God to deliver me (of course with all the hidden and unspoken intention of splitting after I had recovered).

Yet, God knowing my heart and intentions still delivered me from the trouble I had brought to myself anyway – for free.

He never charged me, or asked for an offering, or even demanded that I should serve Him in return. God was willing to heal and deliver me understanding full well the risk: that I might turn away from Him after the healing and go back to my old ways.

By God’s grace, what happened instead, is I stuck around. Reason? I discovered a peace in Him that I had never ever experienced elsewhere in this world and that drew me to want to stick around and know Him more.

Out of adversity, a brother, a sweetheart, my most precious friend was born. Out of adversity, I discovered a rare gem in God: a friend who sticks closer than a brother, a friend who vowed never to leave or forsake me, and a friend, who promised me (as His disciple) – come hell or high water He would stay by my side no matter what.

I am with you always even to the end of the age - Jesus

And having been loved in this way, it was not only right, but also necessary to let Him have all of me: all my time, relationships, health, body, money, heart, mind, soul and my all. (08 (09)/12/2022)

Jesus is her King

Having God as my friend has transformed my life in so many ways. All the way from how I think, how I speak, how I relate with all my other friends, what I say, what I do, where I go, etc. And there is not a single day I have regretted the decision and choice to follow Him and have Him — not only as my Lord and Savior, but also my dear friend as well.

I will admit, however, that my flesh despises this friendship. It rejoices in it only when it needs His help and favors. Otherwise, it totally despises the self-denial and the cross carrying because it is extremely inconveniencing. And as a result, it is always whining, gripping, complaining, and inciting me to ease on following Jesus ‘too much.’

And to this, I pray: ‘O Lord, help me to put to death the deeds and desires of my flesh daily so that I may do what You require and ask of me to do everyday. I am willing to follow You; only establish me firmly in Your will as I receive the promise of friendship by faith and in assurance — today and forevermore — which You have given me in Your word.

John 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.

John 15

14 You are My friends if you keep on doing the things which I command you to do.
15 I do not call you servants (slaves) any longer, for the servant does not know what his master is doing (working out). But I have called you My friends, because I have made known to you everything that I have heard from My Father. [I have revealed to you everything that I have learned from Him.]
16 You have not chosen Me, but I have chosen you and I have appointed you [I have planted you], that you might go and bear fruit and keep on bearing, and that your fruit may be lasting [that it may remain, abide], so that whatever you ask the Father in My Name [as presenting all that I AM], He may give it to you.
17 This is what I command you: that you love one another.

Then, comes the other verse:

Proverbs 27

6 Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

Some time ago, I will honestly admit that I was the people-pleasing kind of friend. I shied away from speaking the truth to my friends when they were in errant because I never wanted to offend or upset them, or even be judged by them as the friend who was always critical.

Though I loved my friends with all my heart, I just could not bring myself to speak the truth to them or even point out some of their not-so-good behaviors. However, in all fairness, even I myself did not really know how to differentiate between truth and falsehood, or between good and bad.

Notwithstanding, when I developed a relationship with God, I understood Truth and the true meaning of friendship and love: that does it does delight in iniquity but always in truth.

All through my friendship with God, I have discovered that a friend who truly loves you, wounds you (in love) to keep you from endangering yourself; to deter you from falling into the wrong crowd/company, being self-deceived, or even waste yourself engaging in things that are of no value.

A friend who does not tell you the truth is not a true friend. Because for love to exist, there must also be truth and vice versa.

And God, in His love has wounded me: not once, not twice – but severally – so that He may reveal to me the false notions and perceptions I have of myself, and so that I may also bring them to Him to help me change them.

God has been a faithful friend to me, a kind friend, and a loving friend. He has kept His word to me: to love and protect me at all times and to uphold me with His righteous right hand.

Fear Not: For I have redeemed you, I have called you by name; you are mine. Isaiah 43:1

And it is my prayer this December that you (yes you!) will also allow Him to reveal to you this deep, deep, deep love that He has for you as you seek to yield your life over to Him to lead and to guide.

God has a good plan for your life. And in as much as you will not always understand what He is doing or even where He is leading you, I can assure you that the outcome will bring more joy to your soul than anything you have ever experienced in all your life.

His wounds are not like the wounds of an enemy, or those that injure to death — but to life, to deeper joy, to salvation, and to freedom.

For I know the thoughts and plans that I have for you, says the Lord, thoughts and plans for welfare and peace and not for evil, to give you hope in your final outcome — Jeremiah 29:11

Happy Holidays!

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Matthew 6:31 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

Okay… Let’s just be honest, whenever most people hear anything about religion, their first reaction and instinct is probably to cringe or brush off the whole matter entirely.

Why? Most likely because it is a subject that is associated with extreme cases of fanaticism, it brings about a lot of conflicts and controversies, and even offends easily.

Religion is famously known for: manipulation, stagnation, repression, ignorance, bigotry and is too often a threat to liberty. And rightly so. I do agree. With that said, I recommend you to read two of my posts as well as encourage you to do a personal, extensive, and honest research on your own regarding this matter. Why?

As intellectuals (critical thinkers), I believe we owe it to ourselves to interrogate, examine, and ask hard questions regarding matters touching on faith rather than choosing to ignore them or even worse— follow blind faith. Click here for the first post.

Who speaks the truth with regards to a genuine, sincere and true relationship with God? Is it Buddha? Muhammad? Jesus? Zoroaster? Confucius? Joseph Smith? Guru Nanak? Krishna? Among others? Find out on this second post:

Why Jesus Stands Out

My heart overflows with a goodly matter; I speak the things which I have made touching the king: My tongue is the pen of a ready writer. Psalms 45:1

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