The place where a substantial portion of our personality, character is defined and moulded from a young age.
Family is a key foundation to almost every operation we undertake in life. We can have supportive families or unsupportive families. There are so many complexities and underlying factors that make up what it means to be in a family and to have a family.
I believe every single human being is going through something, whether it is a child, a mother or a father. Therefore, we should learn to be gentle with one another.
That is why I have a problem with the word
I actually dislike it so much, if anybody asks me how I am I would rather say I am good or great.
However, the problem is not the word, it is the misuse of the word. At times somebody can be really struggling with life situations but always say they are fine when asked. Most times, the word fine comes naturally because having expressed feelings and sentiments previously people never fully feel understood so they adapt and say all is fine.
I was actually wondering which approach to use whilst writing about this when I got the rough idea of what it is I wanted to put across and finally I said to myself.
“I cannot heal all families and the whole humanity even if I wanted to. But I can start with the ones I am presently blessed to be surrounded by and I can start by writing what I have in my heart.”
Therefore, my plea is—people who have been and raised in loving homes need to cut a break to the rest who have had a hard time in broken families. Most times you may not understand why what comes so easy to you, is so hard for the other person; possibly things like forgivness, understanding, patience and letting go. People raised in broken families have deep-rooted trust issues, fears and exhibit traits of defensiveness— and/or could have worse traits. Therefore, our blessed ones, please be gentle, be firm too and pray for each other.
Those who have been raised in broken families on the other hand, need to also cut a break for those who are trying to make things work out. I believe not all people are out to hurt you as you may have experienced in the past. I believe that God sends even just one, He cannot lack just one person to hold your hand. Accepting you are broken is not an easy thing, in the current society we live in, everybody is strong! Well, that is a flat out lie, people have so much going on and it takes faith, courage and true strength to recognize you need help and healing. Therefore our loved ones, relax, disengage, be kind, be honest and pray for each other.
Families, let us not bleed on one another. This is my plea. Every single person has a burden of their own, at times we think “my cross is heavier than yours, you don’t know how much I have gone through in life” Well, that could be so… But what has happened in the past, should not be used as a weapon to destroy the present but it should help you understand your journey and what to do differently to create a better future for your family and environs.
The goal ultimately is to heal oneself and heal one another.