It is almost end of year and I always carry out an extensive year evaluation. I go back to my goal board and see if I have managed to check off what I had planned to do for the year and I also review the mistakes I made and what I could have done better.
I tend to ask myself hard questions when I carry out this exercise and I end up getting irritable especially when I have to face the uncomfortable answers. This post therefore, is about extending grace to others and to oneself. Remember there was a time I told you guys that my temperament is melancholic? Which also has the perfectionsim trait? I struggle with making decisions not because I do not know how to, but because I dislike having to make the same decision more than once, meaning I missed the mark the first time and due to this, I tend to take longer looking for the perfect decision.
If we are to look deeply in our lives, I am certain we can find a time where we have dissapointed ourselves greatly, we have made decisions that have infringed upon others or we have had questionable behaviors that caused others to be uncomfortable with our actions, caused them to look deeply for tolerance. In each of these circumstances, the first emotion that comes to us is irritation, bitterness and anger at ourselves or others.
The truth is, there has never existed a man on the earth who has made the most perfect of choices.
With this, I believe that we should learn to extend grace to one another, we should not be too quick to judge, to jump ship, to give up, to throw in the towel. I know here, a question may arise, “what if I have given all the grace I have?” To be honest, I believe such a question can only be answered after weighing one’s individual conscience.
I imagine the many times we error, we transgress, we fall into temptations, we even sin knowingly and yet, God still finds the graces to forgive us. He still calls us back to himself and calls us His beloved, His children. This to me has got to be the greatest acts of love. For one to love us so unconditionally even in our most undesirable moments because his nature is love, He is always ready leave the 99 just to find the one. In an investment perspective, this does not make any sense, to leave 99 pieces of gold just to search for one. But God’s kingdom operates on a different currency—faith.
Forgiving others and extending grace is not easy, it takes tremendous humility with help of the Holy Spirit but when we are able to cut others a break, it becomes a form of healing to ourselves. God in turn gives us peace beyond human understanding and elevates us to greater heights.
This does not mean that we should allow people to mistreat us or misuse our goodness and kindness. Jesus did not give us peace in vain, I believe He wanted us to use this peace to bless others. Therefore, it is also important to set healthy boundaries to maintain peaceful and respectful relationships.
When I look back at my life, I see situations that could have turned out terribly if my family was not hard and gentle with me at the same time. I thank God for the many times I made so many mistakes but God’s grace covered the shame that could have befell me. Because of this, I too, have learnt mercy and to extend this precious gift called grace to others and to myself.
We all deserve grace, we all deserve mercy and when we give them to others, we transform not just one life, but multiple lives.
So yeah! Throw grace around like confetti.